| There are many avenues and techniques used for | | | | new friends and partners are found. |
| coping with stress. Relaxation techniques, engaging in a | | | | Even permanent losses should not result in loss of |
| creative activity, a good workout, or relaxing walk. | | | | persistence and hope. We humans are a very resilient |
| Coping, however, isn't curing. If you want to deal with | | | | lot. This is not to say that 'time heals all wounds', but |
| chronic stress in an effective manner it is necessary | | | | through thought and effort you can cover a great |
| to get at the root cause. | | | | distance in doing so. |
| Stress is generally a two pronged attack on you... | | | | When a person focuses on what is valuable and what |
| external and internal... essentially the two colliding | | | | is possible and look beyond the stress agent then |
| factors are what has happened and how you | | | | acute stress is mitigated and when thought and effort |
| internalize the level of seriousness. The sum of these | | | | combine with a pragmatic attitude toward life's |
| two products determines what your ability to cope is | | | | personal tests and challenges, a chronic stress invasion |
| with any given situation. | | | | is all but impossible. |
| Certainly life offers up many stressful events such as | | | | Unfortunate event's happen within everyone's life. |
| a lost job, a failed marriage, a serious illness, and on | | | | Everything isn't always 'ok' - but having a sense of |
| and on. But, even for these events to result in stress | | | | realism is a major tool for you to have. When bad |
| (especially long term stress) any individual has to | | | | situations occur it is this realism that keeps things in |
| evaluate the events and themselves in a particular | | | | perspective in that; yes bad things happen and things |
| way. | | | | truly may be 'as bad as they seem' - but rarely do |
| Self confidence and experience in handling stressful | | | | they have to stay that way. |
| events go a long way toward any person being much | | | | Objectivity is a key characteristic in either keeping |
| more resilient to stress. If the person identifies situations | | | | chronic stress away or breaking the cycle. Long term |
| realistically and internally knows that they have the | | | | stress many times partners with or leads to |
| capability to deal with and overcome life's inevitable | | | | depression and is in fact many times self perpetuating... |
| inequities; they will certainly feel challenged (not | | | | you feel bad - so everything looks bad - things look |
| incapacitated) - but this is a normal part of living and in | | | | bad - so you feel even worse. |
| fact is quite a healthy reaction... and is far from | | | | Recommitting to successes and achievement and |
| constituting chronic stress. | | | | overcoming life's daily challenges is essential to break |
| In order to deal with chronic stress it is vital to have an | | | | the negative cycle. With every hurdle that you |
| objective sense of the actual damage and the | | | | overcome, you grow stronger in your ability to get |
| external factors that come into play. Many | | | | over the next one. But, getting to this in your life takes |
| circumstances in life involve losses that are, at the | | | | conscious thought and most of all... action. Rarely do |
| very least, are temporarily out of our control... but | | | | life's answer come mailed special delivery right to your |
| situations change, wounds heal, relationships mend, and | | | | doorstep. |